it is the moment when we feel like the walls are caving in
When it feels like the bottom will drop out of our lives.
There is never a real reason to believe that everything is falling apart.
We do that to ourselves
We put that in our own minds.
We create a life where we believe everything needs to be perfect.
we post on social media
we find activities on Pintrest and then wail over them failing.
We want to do right by all around us.
That is where the damage is happening.
The shell we create inside crumbles with every blow. This way our outside appears the same.
There goes that test
Your child forgot a homework assignment
Your parents are ill
your car gets a flat
you get in a fight with your coworker
your dinner burns
your laundry is piling up
your house needs to be cleaned
The exterior is fine, but check the structure
It is not withholding the blows.
At some point the foundation crumbles
the bottom falls out
and we tailspin
something as “small” as a tag in our shirt or pants can make every edge of our body itch
so how do we handle it?
do we cry
change our outfit 12 times
clean out an entire room
withdraw from social occasions
forget everything we need to accomplish
or do we find a way to cope
to maneuver our lives to adapt
Whatever we do, we need to recognize that the stress that we create for ourselves can be changed.
we need to learn to pick our schedules carefully
let go of what we don’t need
change what we can
and seek our friends often.
An hour with a friend can change our outlook
not on the phone, or in a text but with a friend.
go to a movie, or a coffee shop, or bring a bottle of wine to a dinner and just enjoy
whatever we do, we have to remember that even when the walls are caving in, or the bottom is dropping out, we are able to rebuild or restructure by our actions and internal dialog. It is not easy to change those things, but, with time, practice, patience, and even sometimes professional help, we can overcome.